if you asked me about them, I'd tell you I'd known them all for some time--months to years--before I considered them a potential partner. I'd tell you that getting closer to them meant I was able to bring something out in them I didn't see in them for a long time, that you wouldn't notice in a group situation, mostly. I wouldn't be able to tell you what. it varies. but it always made me feel like I was special to them, and it made them all the more special to me.
if you started talking to them all for a little bit, you'd notice they are all quiet and softspoken. if you talked to them a bit more, you'd find them able to talk enthusiastically and at length about things they're passionate about, with very little restraint. if you talked to them about anything serious, you'd find them to be sweet and caring and to hold strong political convictions based on empathy and understanding.
I think I should share my insights on my type now. thank you to everyone who talked to me about this!
I care VERY little about physical characteristics. if you put everyone I dated or seriously crushed on in a room together and peeked in you'd find almost no commonality aside from not seeing any traditionally masculine guys.
polyamorous, mostly gay
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